“Murder and Mayhem”
Amanda Hess’ “The Sexist” blog has erupted into a gender war over the false rape accusation case at Hofstra University. In case you haven’t heard about it, a Hofstra student, Danmell Ndonye, recently accused five guys of raping her. The media jumped all over the story, calling it heinous, but Ndonye soon recanted, admitting it was voluntary, and that the reason she cried “rape” was so as to be able to justify it to her boyfriend. My contribution to the battle, with some minor editing, is set forth below:
Lets separate the forest from the trees. The root problems here aren’t “rape culture” or false accusations.
The real problem is represented by a simple catch-phrase: “murder and rape.” The real issue is that rape ain’t exactly murder. Not even close. Sorry, girls, including to my otherwise dear co-worker who recently voiced that rape is worse than murder: just because it happens to you more than us guys doesn’t make it a worse crime than it really is.
To be sure, rape CAN be a serious crime. For instance, rape of a straight guy by a fellow-guy is an unnatural and horrible and despicable act. It involves the insertion of one body part into another body part where it is clearly both not intended to go and where such body part is not welcomed by the recipient.
The very horribleness of guy-on-guy rape is what keeps most of us guys from a life of crime, which usually leads to more money and – as all of us guys know by now – both as a result of the crimes and the glam that comes with being the “bad-boy,” leads to more girls.
Rape is also a serious crime when involves the spread of disease, and can certainly be a serious crime when it results in an unwelcome pregnancy. And to be sure, rape is often accompanied by other serious crimes, such as murder and mayhem.
But whether something is a truly serious crime shouldn’t merely depend upon who is doing it. Rape, of course, does. Few women in the United States would deny themselves the opportunity to have Derek Jeter insert his penis in their vagina, not even knowing anything about Derek Jeter’s penis, and yet if another guy, possibly with a nicer penis and better cocksmanship, does the same thing without the consent of the girl, or even with her consent but falsely claiming he is Derek Jeter, he faces decades in prison.
In contrast to rape, now matter how much I adore, revere, often fuck, have dated, sex workers, and no matter how much I even want to someday marry a sex worker (contrary to the theory of the misguided girls that think guys hate sex workers), I wouldn’t even want the likes of Carmen Luvana to cut off my arm, or going all Lorena Bobbitt on me. That’s the difference between rape and mayhem – with mayhem, the act is virtually always a bad thing.
And, as vividly demonstrated by the Hofstra case, where the only “crime” these guys apparently committed was not inviting accuser Ndonye to breakfast the next morning, a serious crime isn’t something that could just as easily be the fantasy of a lifetime fulfilled. Especially when that fantasy of a lifetime is actually being forcibly raped.
I know a girl who called me one morning, screaming and crying that she was passed out and woke up in bed with a guy she knows, that she was raped, asking me what she should do. Beginning the next day for the next six months, that same guy was, with her full consent and in her own words, her “boyfriend.”
It can even be rape if the woman enjoys getting raped, as some surely have.
This is not to say rape shouldn’t be illegal. After all, guys, think about how disgusting it would be if a fat chick tied you down against your will, planted her smelly, hairy, yeasty pussy on your face, and kept gagging you with her filthy labia and engorged penis-like clit. Such a thing CAN’T be legal, and that’s coming from a guy who paid a cute 21 YO $100 yesterday to smother my face with her hairless, odorless vagina while I was rolling.
Personally, I abhor rape – even borderline, getting-a-girl-in-bed-by-
A lot of guys don’t really understand why women consider rape so horrible. It sometimes looks to some of us like running over to console a toddler who just fell or knocked its head against something but didn’t think to start crying until everyone starts coddling. And even some of us thinks rape is a lot worse than it really is by putting ourselves into the woman’s shoes, but when we do so, we really, in effect, put our asses into the woman’s pussy, which makes it seem worse than it is, since its worse to fuck our asses – they aren’t for penis insertion, but pussies are. In fact, the overwhelming majority of the time, women quite like it when penises go in them - it makes them juicy, and throb in a good way.
What really drives the cult of rape, if not its “culture” as described by Amanda Hess, is that rape is about that favorite obsession of women, to wit: power. Of course, it isn’t about power for the rapists, just to the victim, because it shatters the illusion of power women carry with them. The true power of penis-worthy women emanates from between their legs – the limits they place on access to their vaginas, and the shortage of attractive women, is what keeps us paying attention to them, paying for their lifestyles, paying them cash, and coddling them like toddlers. Most attractive women considers only the most elite males truly worthy of their time and affections, and consider themselves the power equivalent of professional athletes, billionaires, and rock stars. Upon being raped, they suddenly realize that any old dreg in a dark parking garage has power of them, too, and the illusion is shattered. Women hate rape because its a reality check.
This isn’t just DirkJohanson speaking. The world, or at least any reader of The Balls Monologues, now expects a piece like this by me. Rather, other guys say things like this to me all the time – they bring up the subject, out of thin air. We are beginning to accurately assess rape.
By complaining about everything and anything under the sun for more than four decades about guys, including through what I call sperm libel (false, generalized statements about guys such as saying that we hate sex workers), by discarding equal protection under the law for empowerment, by using every trivial slight to attack everything guys do and attempt to garner the fruits of our labor through spurious lawsuit and claims, women have lost the issue of rape – ironically, perhaps the singlemost pro-woman issue guys felt most strongly about long before the Steinems and Dworkins and Ciccones came along. We used to take womens’ words for it that rape was horrible, but ladies, you’re credibility is shot now, not just because of Ndonye the Duke case, and other false accusers, but because of so much of what you’ve said in the past four decades.
So, society needs to come up with a new catchphrase to characterize serious crime. I propose “murder and mayhem”- it even alliterates.
Mayhem. Now that’s a serious crime!
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