XX Factor Babble Watch – So When is a Single Mom not a Single Mom?

January 21, 2009

The current TV Bachelor, Jason Mesnick, splits custody of his son 50/50 with his wife. Samantha Henig doesn’t like that Mesnick is being billed as a “single-Dad.” http://www.slate.com/blogs/blogs/xxfactor/archive/2009/01/20/when-is-a-single-dad-not-a-single-dad.aspx

Well, lets examine this. Is he a “dad?” Well, he’s apparently sired a child, so he’s a dad on that basis alone, which seems to be enough for satisfy womens’ criteria of what makes a “dad’ a “dad” for purposes of paternity suits. And in his case, its not just a matter of sperm – he has 50/50 custody.

Is he “single?” Well, he’s not married, which should probably end the inquiry, but if you want to take the analysis even further, apparently at least at the time of taping the show, he didn’t even have a girlfriend. Of course he’s THE freakin’ Bachelor, for chrissakes.

According to Samantha, “‘single dad’ means a dad doing it on his own. A widower, most likely, like the bumbling Dan Aykroyd character in My Girl, or maybe someone abandoned by his wife, like the sweetly depressed couch-bound father in Pretty in Pink. But not a divorced guy splitting parenting “50-50” (although obviously less at times … like when he’s starring in reality-TV shows) with his son’s mom.”

So, does that mean a chick with a kid that she has only half the time isn’t a “single mom?” What the fuck is she then? In order to be a single mom, does a broad have to be destitute, not getting any child support, and not know where the fathers are, like the ones I always end up dating? Can’t a divorced or never married mother be a single mom even if she can afford a cheap car and is able to pay the electric bill, unlike the ones I always end up dating?

What about Mesnick’s ex-wife, who obviously wasn’t doing a lot of parenting when she shot this music video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VvIm3CKAUMY She also has time to serve as Operations Director of some company: http://www.tri-digital.com/contact.html She’s not a single mom? 50/50 is, after all, only half the time – the same as Mesnick – and that still leaves 84 hours a week. Its not like Mesnick went off and joined the French Foreign Legion.

Apparently, blind to her own double-standards – and what standards other than double-standards do broads have anymore? - Henig doesn’t like what she perceives as a different standard, proclaiming, “It’s bad enough on the macro level that a hot guy with a kid gets extra strokes for being all sensitive and adorable while a hot woman with a kid is viewed as having baggage.” First of all, I’ve known several women -including single moms - that had an avowed disinterest in being with a guy who had kids of his own. One chimes in with commentary here: http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/storked/2008/12/the-bachelor-enter-the-single.html But more importantly, Henig denies the basic differences between the sexes. Almost as surely as guys have cocks and women have pussies, a guy marrying a woman with kids will be looked at as a source of monetary support for the woman’s child, while the reverse – well, has it ever happened? Once? And there are plenty of guys with kids not viewed as sensitive and adorable – Sean Kemp and Latrell Sprewell come immediately to mind.

Also, I don’t think I’m going out on a limb here by saying that, in general, women – yes, people that are the same sex as Henig – are into the whole nesting and having kids around thing than guys are. So, in the end, isn’t that double-standard in vogue among her own?

In fact, not surprisingly, Henig’s missive is aimed at another broad, who finds Mesnick and his single dadness hot.

I love a civil war.

Meanwhile, when are these bimbos going to stop lining up to compete over the same bullshit kind of guys? I know – never – its only going to get worse – its an inherent part of our social de-evolution.

I was in a bachelor auction once – a plain 30-something spinster went into credit card debt to outbid a hideous 40-something single-mom (or was she? – her ex paid child support and lived in the same town) monster that I eventually ended up suing. I spent an entire weekend on South Beach avoiding her grasp and sexual advances like the cat in the Pepe Lepew cartoons – I mean, I know people down there – cool, good-looking South Beach people, no less! She actually wouldn’t have been bad if she wore a little more makeup, dressed like a shut, and was into chicks, but she didn’t, didn’t, and wasn’t. Needless to say, I skipped the part of my package that was set aside for a trip to the clothing optional and very nude north end of Haulover Beach, and the only pleasure I took from the weekend was slipping out of her bed, after she insisted I stay and “take a nap,” to go stare at the topless boobs on the beach outside our hotel, the Ritz Plaza.

But I digress.

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